I saw her teared again today.... Not the first time either In as many days.....
All I can say is Guys are, by and large... selfish baskets With some exceptions.
You wouldn't and couldn't let her go When you guys broke up Amicably Emotionally you still needed her
One moment you said I can't love her anymore One moment you blogged "I can't stop loving her"
So she allowed you to continue to lean on her calling her every night texting her randomly at regular intervals
Then... instead of slowly Weaning yourself off the relationship And learn to stand on your own for a while, What you did was classic... You moved from one relationship straight to another.
Yes.... I can hear you complain It's not a relationship I just told her I liked her.... FINE.... why tell her then?
Are you telling her you've all grown up and grown out of her? Have you considered the Other party's feelings?
Where does that leave her? She allows herself to be Your emotional crutch Not even daring to 'move on' "Coz i know it's easier for me... (to stand on my own)"
Yet you had to tell her the details of your conversations with one another After denying You had started to have Some feelings....
AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH
She was starting her "O" Levels YOU MORON!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She does not NEED this kind of emotional Roller coaster Oh! But did you think of that? Noooooooooooo
How do you think She would feel? Hearing that After allowing the Emotional attachment You still have of her...
The crutch is thrown away useless discarded For you can walk again.... Leaning on another person's arm
Great & to think you used to call me FuMIL Thanks But no thanks.
Had a chat with a friend of mine, who unlike me, had her children a little later in life.
She was building a business to ensure that her children would be catered for.
Now that's smart.
I had never counted the cost of raising children. Didn't think it could be this expensive in Singapore!
Boy were we in for a shock!
From the baby package on (prenatal check ups, type of delivery, which Doctor), There's really no stopping. Tuition, Enrichment, Sports like swimming and tennis Music lessons, not just piano lessons, but like drums, flutes, guitar, pop piano.... you name it.
The bills grow fast and furious.
My friend is quite well off now, having laboured hard, to build up a comfortable home for her family.
The children? Well, they get to have many things my children didn't get till about a year ago. Mind you, her children had to 'earn' it by studying hard, my friend didn't spoil them just because she had them late.
This is something I do with my children too. Work for the cell phone Earn it. They earned a TV from their grandmother. They earned a trip to US - Long anticipated trip, but nonetheless, The girls did wonderfully well that year!
We may not have new laptops new MP3s at the drop of the hat But I still reward them for their efforts I can hear some parents say.... The children are supposed to Study hard To do well To score high marks
Well, they are supposed to Do the best they could it doesn't hurt though, to Give a little incentive a little tangible encouragement.
We appreciate an extra pat on the back a thicker wage packet at the end of the year, So why shouldn't we Reward our children?
Then what if the children didn't do well?
In the commercial world, We don't get promoted, We might get fired, but...
In parenting It's not conditional
Because even if the children did badly, We don't withdraw our love for them. We try ways of helping them Achieve their full potential We fund their activities and hobbies We try to encourage them to Realise their dreams. We hope with them the same hope they nurse.
And hide the concerns we have or try to steer them from the pitfalls we see coming or simply cushion their falls.
And we will always be there to lift them up to wipe away a little tear to share a hot mug of cocoa or a glass of wine.....
In the days when the Israelites were having a long haul trip from Egypt to the Promised Land, thanks to their lack of faith (all but 2), God provided for the whole race. Not just a tribe, not just the troop, but the whole race.
He sent Manna from Heaven, which were to be consumed on that day only, unless it was the Sabbath, when the people can gather enough to last the Sabbath. The manna would then last twice as long, ie one extra day... talk about short shelf life!
When they finally took over the land flowing with milk and honey, the manna stopped.
We, or at least I, tend to use the phrase "manna from Heaven" as God's provision literally from the sky. As in, whenever times were hard, I would label any extra income as manna from Heaven.
Take my acting.
The acting bug was caught about 10 years ago. From Gotcha on, I have been having small parts. More than just being an extra, but nothing much to shout about, and definitely nothing substantial.
Then I had a 'big break', and for a while, I was acting nearly every week. It was the right 'time' and the opportunity was there.
As it happens, this became kind of a pattern. The casting directors just don't seem to call me when I have stricter working hours.
Not that they know, that's the amazing part.
Somehow, during certain seasons, I don't get calls for audition, for shoots. Zip! Sometimes, I would get hauled out of the attic. The timing? Perfect.
For the last couple of years, I was getting back into acting, getting calls even in the middle of the day, asking for free slots.
As suddenly as it happened, it is slowly tapering off, again. It's as if the Lord is not sending down the manna from Heaven, at least for a while, as (I felt) I am entering another season.
One thing about the manna from Heaven, for the people of Israel, and for me, is that it's always enough. Not excess, just enough.
It has been a mad rush for me ever since I started work at the new place. For those of you who have read my blog, you probably realise by now that I tend to move from job to job quite a bit. This time, it's a deliberate, strategic move.
It's my belief that I am where I want and where I am supposed to be.
My last job requires me to wake up at most unearthly hours. I think most in my previous profession (though they may not mind it), would admit getting to work at about 6.40 am to avoid traffic jams, can be rather tiring. But the day ends 'early'. So with all the other stuff, one can make their way home before 6 pm.
This new job has 2 perks. Its location... 1/2 hr bus ride, and work starts at 9.00 am.... yippeee.
Work ends at 6 pm, but outside of work... some days...I don't get home till 9 pm. Yet, I don't feel that tired. Even managed a brisk walk on Monday. Am hoping to have more regular exercises soon too.
Anyway, I think it's good as all these activities take me away from the TV. I know I am rather 'addicted' to the TV, so, the arrangement is that the girls can have the TV and computer all to themselves until I come home. Then.... I can watch TV if I still have the energy. I also have first choice of programmes.....
wait... I can hear my girls say I ALWAYS have first choice of programmes... Not true!! I do sit through many Nickelodean stuff and comedy nights too!!!!!so there! haha
Still... I think I have reduced my time in front of the box, and started to sleep earlier.
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