I was touched and blessed by today's ministry. The lady, named Debbie? shared her testimony about being a single mom and about being vulnerable and ended up being together with an unsavory character. She was hurt, abused and totally felt rotten.
I think I learnt a few things:
1. We will be vulnerable, at some point in our lives. 2. Someone who will take advantage of that. 3. God will always be there despite our many failures to take us back 4. We have to learn to forgive.
I wrote Debbie a letter as I had to run off to another church. I have experienced the power of forgiveness and I wanted to thank her and somehow, I ended up sharing my experience.
Something has cleared up for me, finally. Thank you Debbie. Thank you Lord.
I have kept myself to myself all these years. Yearning but never daring to venture To do things that I would regret Or hate myself for.
Yet now I find myself getting more and more fond of you.
Was it my own doing? Did I wish too hard? I thought about what you'd said and wondered if they were Rehearsed or unguarded truth.
I revisit pictures to touch your face, Look forward to your sporadic communication Grin like a Cheshire cat when I get them Yet feel stupid for such yearnings when I don't..
In a way, I had not wanted it to happen To feel an attraction to a person But somewhere deep inside me, I wanted to be able to feel again...
There have been some diverse opinions regarding the topic of re-marriage. Most refers to Jesus' teaching from at least 2 gospels Others hang onto one of the gospels which seems to give an escape clause.
One pastor I know was, and I think still is, pretty strict with regards to divorce and re-marriage. No one who is divorced or re-married can serve in his church as leaders. They can serve, but to be a leader, one has to set an example, which means being the legal spouse of the same person they were married to, the first time round.
In fact, he went to the extent that he would not officiate not attend any church members' wedding if it was the second time round.
His encouragement? Stay single, whether or not it was your fault. The Lord will bless you and use you mightily.
The decision was never mine to make...
One question I beg to have answered... am I not allowed to love and be loved again?
There is a time and a season for things. Hurting, Healing, Getting, Giving, Loving, Longing.
Without the hurt, one knows not the need for healing. Healing may take a long while, but until we acknowledge We were hurt and needed healing, no healing can take place.
God touched many people when we were in dire need They blessed us with anonymous but practical gifts. The getting of blessings motivates us that now, it's our turn to give.
There was a time when one idealised the notion of love. That there really could be a living happily ever after Having loved, one knows how their hearts will continue to long For that special connection that God has destined for us.
How to demoralise a person? Easy, hammer them with negative statements.
In one of the lectures I learnt, it takes about 6 positive statement to 'neutralise' 1 negative statement. 6. That means a simple "why couldn't you be more accurate with your work" would need 6 encourageing statements of "well done", "That's a great job", "thanks for your time", or "you look great", to help build up a person back to a level before they were brutally attacked by sharp chiding.
Are we such weaklings that we cannot take criticisms? Perhaps, but negative, angry statements have reduced big strapping men to start having doubts about themselves. That is the beginning of a self doubt, even a self hate spiral.
This is not a blaming exercise, a ranting "woe is me" session. Nor is it a "see what you have done to me" accusation.
It is a plea, to those power hungry people, who wants to feel they are better than others by constantly finding faults... that instead of spending time to backtrack and repair the damage (6 times over), tone and choice of words can help bring across a message with much more persuasion and cooperation from all around to get anything done.
I secretly believe these people who barks their way to the top is trying to get respect from the same people whom they are showing a total disrespect to, and that they are the people who have the greatest insecurity.
Pity really, for they yearn to get the exact thing that they are doing their darnest to push away.
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